Batch Size or Negatives? A Selection Rule for Memory-Constrained Recommender Training

Large-scale neural recommender systems are typically trained with a softmax cross-entropy objective over the full item vocabulary. For a typical large number of possible items K, the final classification layer dominates memory, requiring O(nK) logits and gradients to materialize for a batch of n examples. Sampled softmax reduces this cost by restricting the objective to only k \ll K candidate negative items, resulting in an O(nk) memory. However, for a fixed budget B = n k, it remains unclear whether one should prioritize larger batches or the inclusion of more negative items. We address this question by analyzing sampled-softmax training under a fixed memory constraint. Under standard smoothness and variance assumptions, our theoretical evidence suggests that the fastest convergence arises from an n \sim B, k \sim 1 allocation. So, an actionable rule is to include as many objects as possible given computational constraints. Our theory is supported by controlled synthetic and synthetic and four real sequential recommendation benchmarks, including MovieLens-20M. The suggested configuration achieve faster convergence and better final recommendation quality than imbalanced alternatives within the same memory constraint. These findings provide a theoretical and empirical foundation for configuring memory during the training of recommender systems. Code, reproducibility materials, and all scripts for generating figures are available at https://anonymous.4open.science/r/LimitedMemoryRule-BBFB